Posts tagged dreams

Dear Reedies,
So I’ve noticed that the summers for y’all are…intense, and understandably so. Speaking from my perch at command central I’m seeing a lot of posts about the horrors of office jobs, busywork, inspiring experiences, anxiety, fantastic mentors and collaborators, dashed summer plans, WTF am I doing with my life, etc. Rather than reblog these ruminations (bad idea), I thought maybe we’d just create a little anonymous Tumblr where you can vent, celebrate, and commiserate with one another. Hash out the whole gamut of feelings one might have Outside the Bubble. A place where this shared wisdom can live and be passed down. So anyone can contribute to the Switchboard Summer tumblr by clicking here.  Your posts will be anonymous (please just include your class year, e.g.: ‘13). Maybe this will be a giant failed experiment. But its our effort to try to hug it out. Here. We’ll go first. 

Dear Reedies,

So I’ve noticed that the summers for y’all are…intense, and understandably so. Speaking from my perch at command central I’m seeing a lot of posts about the horrors of office jobs, busywork, inspiring experiences, anxiety, fantastic mentors and collaborators, dashed summer plans, WTF am I doing with my life, etc. Rather than reblog these ruminations (bad idea), I thought maybe we’d just create a little anonymous Tumblr where you can vent, celebrate, and commiserate with one another. Hash out the whole gamut of feelings one might have Outside the Bubble. A place where this shared wisdom can live and be passed down. So anyone can contribute to the Switchboard Summer tumblr by clicking here.  Your posts will be anonymous (please just include your class year, e.g.: ‘13). Maybe this will be a giant failed experiment. But its our effort to try to hug it out. Here. We’ll go first. 

A palliative care nurse called Bronnie Ware made a list of the biggest regrets of the dying. Her list seems plausible. I could see myself—can see myself—making at least 4 of these 5 mistakes.

If you had to compress them into a single piece of advice, it might be: don’t be a cog. The 5 regrets paint a portrait of post-industrial man, who shrinks himself into a shape that fits his circumstances, then turns dutifully till he stops.

The alarming thing is, the mistakes that produce these regrets are all errors of omission. You forget your dreams, ignore your family, suppress your feelings, neglect your friends, and forget to be happy. Errors of omission are a particularly dangerous type of mistake, because you make them by default.

I would like to avoid making these mistakes. But how do you avoid mistakes you make by default? Ideally you transform your life so it has other defaults. But it may not be possible to do that completely. As long as these mistakes happen by default, you probably have to be reminded not to make them. So I inverted the 5 regrets, yielding a list of 5 commands

Don’t ignore your dreams; don’t work too much; say what you think; cultivate friendships; be happy.

which I then put at the top of the file I use as a todo list.